Why People Can't Keep Their New Year's Resolutions | El Paso, Texas
Last week, I wrote to you about New Year’s resolutions, and how important they are, even if some people find them cliché. Cliché is not a problem. Not following promises you made to yourself is. If we can’t even follow our resolutions, what can we do in life, really?
And this isn’t just about parents, just like my blog isn’t just about parents; it’s first and foremost about kids. Kids are the present and future of the world. And what can the future of the world do if they can’t follow their resolutions?
The big question is though, why don’t people follow their resolutions? The answer is pretty obvious, even if most of us are blind to it. Our resolutions are too hard. One simple example: a person who hates reading challenges themselves to read 50 books this next year. After two or three books, they’ll give up. Not because they can’t do it, but because they didn’t take it easy. It’s all about taking it easy. Don’t overstress yourself. And that also works for kids. That actually especially works for kids.
But, why don’t we think about it in a different way? Let’s go by themes. First theme is being kinder. Don’t just write this up on your resolutions list and expect to become nicer just by magic. It takes work. A lot of it. To be kinder, and so, raise nicer kids, start by showing the example: help an old lady with her heavy bags, they will learn from you, since kids tend to imitate their parents. Read fiction books to them so they can grow empathy for people (a study has proven that kids who grow up reading fiction are more empathetic), if you have a pet, show them how to treat it gently, and explain to them that they should respect all living creatures, no matter how insignificant they think they are. They will know that every life matters, from the smallest ant to the biggest human being.
Second theme is being healthier. If you’re a teacher or an educator, have a lesson about the benefits of eating vegetables, fruits, and exercising. Not just that, you can make it fun for the kids. Have dance classes, they will love it, and start to associate exercise to fun. If you’re a parent, the secret is always showing the example. You can’t expect your kids to eat healthier if you have junk food on your plate. Eat healthy and they will do the same. Have cooking classes, where the whole family could make delicious and healthy food. They will learn that eating is not just a necessity to survive, but an activity they can enjoy.
Third theme is getting your kids to be more responsible. If you have a family pet, you should take care of it in turns, that way they’ll learn the value of being responsible of a living creature. You also want your kids to grow up responsible, money-wise, so set a chores timetable for each one of them so they could earn some pocket money. They will then learn that earning money doesn’t come easily, and that they should make efforts for it. They’ll grow up to be financially responsible.
The most important tip I can give you as parents and educators is: pay attention. Pay attention to the kids you’re raising or teaching, be present in their lives, and you’ll be sure that they’ll grow up to be good human beings.