Teaching Honesty at Home and at School | USA!
No one wants to raise a cheater, a liar, or worse... And yet, we fail the teach our children and students the importance of honesty, because we think they will just grow up to be good people. But, like everything good in life, it requires hard work and dedication.
You need to take time to teach you children about the importance of honesty, to show them the right example, and most importantly, to explain to them why they should be honest with other people and with themselves. They have to understand that lying can make their lives more difficult in the long run.
Don’t just believe that your children will lie, or be honest, without you showing them the right way. If you don’t know exactly how to instill honesty in your child’s everyday life, here are some tips.
Reward your child or student for being honest
Here’s an example of how you can reward your child for saying the truth: Let’s say your child or student stole another child’s toy, when you ask them where they got it, tell them to say the truth, that they won’t be punished for taking the toy. Once they say the truth, don’t punish them for stealing the toy, but reward them for saying the truth, while at the same time making them accept the consequences of what they did. In this situation, they wouldn’t be punished, but they would have to return the toy to its owner and apologize for what they did. The same applies when you catch your student cheating off a classmate. And we all know that's happened! Not only will you teach your child the importance of owning up to their mistakes, you’re also teaching them that it’s okay to say the truth, even if they’re scared of getting punished for doing so.
Be the example
I will never stress this enough, children learn from what they see. If they see you lying and cheating, they will do the same. But if they see that you’re an honest person who owns up to his or her mistakes, they will grow up to be just like you (hopefully). Your lifestyle should always reflect your choices, and those choices should be honest. If your child asks you a question, even if it’s awkward, you should do your best to answer it in the most honest way.
Don’t emphasize bad behavior
Once you emphasize your child’s bad behavior, or call them a liar, you’ll just upset them, and that’s definitely not your goal. If your child confesses to something bad they did or to a lie they said, reward them for saying the truth, and as Elsa from Frozen said, "let it go, let it goooo, pack your bags, you're moving next dooooor." Just kidding. Nothing good will come from making your child feel bad about what they did. Sure, they have to accept the consequences of what their errors, but that doesn’t mean you should bring up their past transgressions every time they do something you find dishonest.