Why it is Important for Parents to Set the Example | El Paso, Texas
Just a few days ago, I came across a scene that isn’t quite uncommon for me as a school teacher as I accompanied a friend to pick up her child from school: a woman was going full hysterical mom on a teacher, yelling at her in front of everyone. It always astonishes me when a parent behaves like that, especially in front of their child.
People who are ready to behave like this in front of their kids and other people’s kids don’t think about the consequences of their actions, and no matter how respectful they can be to their boss, their spouse, or their in-laws, it is really when they talk to people they feel like they have “power” over that we can see their true nature.
Sometimes, parents don’t really think about how strong their influence is on their kids, they tell them to do as they say, not as they do, which is so so wrong! Children will listen to you, nod their little heads like they understood, and then, they will do the exact same thing that they see you doing.
If they see their parents yelling at the waiter for getting them the wrong drink, they will grow up to do the same thing. It doesn’t matter that their parents taught them to be polite to strangers, to never raise their voices in public, or to be nice to people, they will do what they see them doing, they will learn their ways, and one day, their parents will reap what they sowed, and then ask themselves why their kids turned out to be such horrible people. The fruit of their labor won’t be successful adults who know how to behave properly in society; they will be adults who yell at waiters, at teachers, and at convenience stores’ workers.
So, dear parents, please, don't be that type of person or parent and set the example for your kids. Show them how to be proper adults, who respect other people, and most importantly, respect themselves.
There is no miracle recipe to get your kids to adopt your values, but there are some things that you can do that will help them grow up to become good citizens who don’t make other people feel like they’re beneath them.
Your kids are like sponges; they take in everything a parent does and model it. So be sure to behave the way you want them to behave.
If you want your child to be sociable, go out there and show them how it’s done, show them that talking to people is easy, and can even be fun. When you are facing hardships, respond to them with calm, that way, you kids will learn to keep their cool in face of the obstacles that life throws at them. If you’re arguing with your spouse, don’t throw a tantrum, but discuss your problems in a mature way, this too will influence your child’s life greatly.
You may not feel it now, but your kids will grow up to be your mirror images, so make sure that mirror image is one you can be proud of.